“When we were five, they asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up. Our answers were things like astronaut, president, or in my case… princess.

When we were ten, they asked again and we answered - rock star, cowboy, or in my case, gold medalist. But now that we’ve grown up, they want a serious answer. Well, how ’bout this: who the hell knows?!

This isn’t the time to make hard and fast decisions, its time to make mistakes. Take the wrong train and get stuck somewhere chill. Fall in love - a lot. Major in philosophy ’cause there’s no way to make a career out of that. Change your mind. Then change it again, because nothing is permanent.

So make as many mistakes as you can. That way, someday, when they ask again what we want to be… we won’t have to guess. We’ll know.”

(Jessica’s Graduation Speech - Twilight Eclipse The Movie)

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Stefan: …and I just need you to trust me.
Elena: Trust is earned. I can’t just magically hand it over.

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The title of this post says all i wanna say.

*tampar2 pipi biar ngedip*

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Akhinya jadi Widya Asriana, S.Psi

terimakasih atas semua dukungan dan doanya…

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Men and woman often differ in their responses to jealousy. Woman said they would react to the rival’s interference by seeking to improve the relationship; they intended to put on a show of indifference but compete with the rival by making themselves more attractive to their partners. In contrast, men said they would strive to protect their egos; they planned to get drunk, confront and threaten the rival, and pursue other women. Whereas woman seemed to focus on preserving the existing relationship, men consider leaving it and salving their wounded pride with conquest of new partners.

On thing that makes them worrisome is that woman are much more likely than men to try to get their partners jealous (White, 1980a; Miller, 2007). When they induce jealousy - usually by discussing or exaggerating their attraction to other men, sometimes by flirting with or dating them - they typically seek to test the relationship (to see how much he cares) or try to elicit more attention and commitment from their partners (White, 1980a; Miller, 2007). They evidently want their men to respond the way they do when they get jealous, with greater effort to protect and maintain the relationship. The problem, of course, is that’s not the way men typically react. Women who seek to improve their relationships by inducing jealousy in their men may succeed only in driving their partners away.

Reference:

Miller, R., Perlman, D., Brehm, S. (2007). Intimate Relationship 4^th Edition. New York: Mc-Graw Hill.

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JADI SARJANA PSIKOLOGI.

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Walaupun sebenarnya saya bingung kenapa saya sampai menangis ’sesegukan’ begini.

udah lama juga gak nangis kaya gini.

kenapa? kenapa? kenapa?

ya, mungkin saya sedang sedih.

ya, mungkin saya sedang marah.

ya, mungkin saya sedang panik.

ya, mungkin saya sedang muak.

ya, mungkin saya sedang cognitive overload.

ya, mungkin saya sedang kesal.

ya, mungkin saya sedang bosan.

ya, mungkin saya sedang bingung.

dan ya. mungkin saya… ah, ini hanya akumulasi.

ayo wid, menangis saja selagi masih bisa menangis.

keluarin semuanya. biar lega

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*A tantrum is an emotional outburst of ill humor or a fit of bad temper wherein the ‘higher’ cognitive functions are unable to stop the emotional expression of the putative ‘lower’ (emotional and physical) functions. It can be categorized by an irrational fit of crying, screaming, defiance, angry ranting and a resistance to every attempt at pacification in which even physical control is lost. From a psychological standpoint, there may be several goals to a tantrum, which may or may not be the “reward(s)” that are consciously desired by the person. To many outsiders, these goals may seem irrational, unreasonable, inappropriate, criminal, unethical, immoral, or the work of some spiritual force(s). To people familiar with or trained to recognize the psychological causes of such behavior, however, there are clear emotional, cognitive behavioural and biochemical correlates to tantrums. (wikipedia.com)

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RUSSELL: Good afternoon. My name is Russell. And I am a wilderness explorer in tribe 54, Sweat lodge 12. Are you in need of any assistance today, sir?

CARL: No.

RUSSELL: I could help you cross the street

CARL: No.

RUSSELL: I can help you cross your yard.

CARL: No.

RUSSELL: I could help you cross your porch.

CARL: No.

RUSSELL: Well, I gotta help you cross something.

CARL: No, I’m doing fine.

RUSSELL: Good afternoon. My name is Russell. And I am a wilderness explorer in tribe 54. Sweat Lodge 12. Are you in need of any assistance today…

(door slams)

RUSSELL: Aww.

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Hey, Russell! Can i keep you??

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